Lost and Found
They were lost and now were found...was blind and now I see. Deep cleaning and sifting out musty books. Preparing for the changes.
Well I found one folder with a handful of images in it of this process... but you really have to back up before these images to the day the idea surfaced.
With the constant changes in our economy and the realization that nothing is forever, it began to spark with Stacey and Larry that combining households was something they wanted to do.
I really want her to share about this...so I will skip over to our initial reaction. I remember laying in bed with thoughts scrambling through my head... "This is not a good thing." Over and over... "This is not a good thing." I heard Terry chuckling as I repeated it over and over like a mantra.
Originally our plans were to join households with them in about 15 to 20 years. We figured by then we would be ready to have our small room and much less junk and it gave us 15 to 20 years to sift through and part with life long treasures. I had already begun purging six years ago... parting with books, knick knacks, clothes that I had hung on to since high school... and even more. Terry has not let go of much so for him this process will be much much harder.
The next thing I did was find one of the latest published books about multigenerational living and tried really really hard to find things to knock it out of consideration. That did not happen. 99% of what I found supported it. We are the only nation in the world that does not have it any more. It changed after the second world war. Everything changed. All my past sociology classes were popping back in my head and I continued to delve deeper.
Good for the older generation to have help with outdoor upkeep, health needs and having grandchildren around.
Good for the parents to have back up help with the grandparents to fill in love and not have to be the harsh disciplinarian.
Fabulous for the children to grow up in so much love.
Splitting the cost of living proportionately. (definitely helps on the Uverse cost and utilities.
Eating together results in healthier meals if the older generation has a hand in things.
So we began to consider it, but the next hurdle was the dogs. We have a male Kerry Blue that just does not like any other animals. The exception was the female Kerry we had that was older and he loved her. Stacey and Larry have two mixed breeds, part Beagle and part Schnauzer. Our prayer was that God would show us the way and give us a sign because our hearts and minds were still saying NO... this is not going to work, it is not a good thing.
More to come.
Laurie Pace aka "Oma"
"Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not rely on your own insight. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths" (Proverbs 3:5-6 NRSV).